Woof! BDSM 24/7 role play lifestyle

Dog, 53, and DaddySir, 40, met seven years ago when Dog emigrated from New Zealand, “looking for a man”.
“Being a dog is part of my whole persona – I don’t switch it on or off,” Dog says.
“We don’t distinguish between the S&M scene and the dog scene [dogdom] – I’m always the dog/slave and he’s always the master. But it’s not just S&M – we’re full partners. The only thing that intrudes on our relationship is work.”
Neither of them are into bestiality. “Sex of any sort with a real dog wouldn’t be considered. I know some guys may include this in their lifestyle, but Sir and I don’t.”
DaddySir has been in the leather scene since his mid-20s, was Australian Drummer Boy ’92 (a title sponsored by Drummer, a US gay leather magazine, 1975-1999). He knew various leatherati such as International Mr Drummer Clive Platman and his boy John Siracusa, mixed socially with Leather Views columnist Jack Rinella’s household, and was interviewed by Berkeley anthropology professor Gayle Rubin. He later lived in San Francisco and has been on US and Australian organising committees for leather events.
“In the US, the roles are completely defined,” DaddySir says. “The slave strips and waits in a specific posture. But we have much more fluid roles.”
DaddySir’s interest was piqued when one of his ex-lovers had a human pup. Also, when he was travelling through Amsterdam in the mid-90s “the founder of The Dog House followed me around like a pup”.
“We know a few other couples in Sydney but the scene is fairly private,” DaddySir says. “If you’re looking for someone, put yourself out there. Go on the Net.”
Dog said he’d learnt about dogdom by chatting online and looking at PupZone.com and TheDogHouse.org.
Their families know they’re into leather, but “not about the dog thing”, DaddySir says.
He explains they play in “full dog mode” about 20 per cent of the time. “Life gets in the way. Mentally, he’s always dog to me.“
At other times, Dog is “always my slave and submissive. I’m always ‘right’.
“There’s always soap in the shower, I don’t have to change the toilet roll or worry about having clean undies.”
DaddySir is often busy out and about, so when Dog needs time in full mode, he is allowed to suggest it by barking and taking his mitts to his Master.
“I get a lot of love and affection from him – like a pet – but even more so,” DaddySir says. “He matters a lot to me. I like having him nearby – I scratch his tummy and he curls up at my feet. He often falls asleep clamped to my boots – I have to wake him up to move when my bladder’s full.”
When Dog is in full dog mode, DaddySir describes being a master as “demanding”. “I have to provide total care”, which includes tethering Dog to restraint points, dishing the food, cleaning dog bowls, emptying the pee bucket, buying new sheepskin rugs and providing discipline and entertainment.
Like a real dog, Dog is naked around the home, apart from his chain, collar and ball weights, and rarely uses furniture, except when he has permission to use the computer and sometimes when dining.
At the evening meal, Dog usually does the slave role of cooking, then DaddySir spoons the food into one of two big aluminium dog bowls on the floor.
“He always eats from a dog bowl in the morning and most evenings,” DaddySir says. “It’s a bit too difficult to do that when we’re having steak, but it’s good with spag bol or most other foods – tuna carbonara, honey and mustard chicken and rice.
“We have lots of little tricks – we put a pie plate in the bowl to make it a bit shallower. He drinks out of a bowl and is very good at it – it’s a skill.” Dog wipes his face clean on a mat.
“He never eats dog food – it’s not healthy in the long term,” says DaddySir.
When they’re in the living room, there’s a restraint point where dog’s chain is tethered. “I am usually attached to this in the evening,” Dog says. “Dogs shouldn’t be left to roam about!”
DaddySir says: “He sits at my feet on a sheepskin rug. He’s got arthritis, so he’s more comfy on the floor.”
When it comes to playtime, Dog describes himself as an “old dog” who is not into puppy play such as scampering and fetching. “Lots of [people who play as] puppies don’t associate S&M with dogdom because they think you shouldn’t hurt a dog. I’ve had several real dogs and wouldn’t think of hurting them. But our style is different. I like S&M too.
“I tend to push – I headbutt him for attention. I take the crop to him in my mouth if I want a good whipping.”
Dog didn’t need any training. “I just showed hm where to eat, pee and sleep,” DaddySir says. “There’s a bucket on a mat where he pees. He has different barks and whines to let me know what he wants.”
There are numerous pet accoutrements to enhance the role.
For example, Dog has several sets of ball weights to make his testicles appear more dog-like.
“They swing about and bounce with them on,” Dog says.
“I often wear a 440g and 700g together when I’m at home. The 440g one fits under clothing so I can wear it to work.”
DaddySir says the stretched effect “makes them an easier target for the riding crop”.
To stay in a dog’s headspace, Dog says a collar is helpful.
“I have two main chain collars and several leather dog collars, plain and studded. The big chain weighs about 700g with 35mm links. The smaller chain sits under my work collar and tie and is about 200g with 25mm links.“
During summer he got heat rash and had to leave all chains off for several days. “I felt strange. Even when fully clothed, I felt more naked than when I’m wearing nothing at home.”
Dog’s favourite toys include a special dog hood and flogger, both made by Keith Porter (The Boss), a renowned rubber queen who died earlier this year. He also has a leather isolation hood which was made by San Francisco Dyke Leather Daddy, Shadow, in 1990.
“I love the time I spend in the rubber dog hood,” Dog says. “Sometimes DaddySir combines it with the isolation hood, which is very much a part of my dog attire.”
DaddySir says: “A rubber flogger is still the toy the dog fears most but asks for regularly.”
When they go on vacation they sometimes travel with a large collapsible doggie cage. “We took it to Melbourne and set it up in The Gatehouse, a fetish B&B where he stayed in the cage naked,” DaddySir recalls.
When they’re socialising, DaddySir says if anyone causes trouble “I warn them he might bite them on the ankle.” Has Dog ever done that? “Not unless I tell him to!”
When it’s time for bed, Dog sleeps at the end of a chain on a low mattress or in restraints, usually naked, next to DaddySir’s bed.
“Sometimes he sleeps in the cage in the playroom [dungeon],” DaddySir says.
So what’s so great about being a dog?
“I don’t analyse things to death,” Dog says. “As I’ve got older, I’ve found it harder to relax and stop working. As Dog, I feel most contented and at ease.”
DaddySir adds: “He tends to have two speeds – full speed or nothing. He worries about work like a dog at a bone. Then he collapses in a heap.”
So it’s dogdom instead of yoga?
“No, we do yoga too,” DaddySir says. “And he’s really good at the Downward Facing Dog pose.”
(As a submissive, Dog’s name and pronouns would usually be spelt all in lower case, but this hasn’t been done to minimise confusion.)